HELP - Lessons learned from my dog

Over the years, Bailey taught me some important lessons. By incorporating these lessons into my own life, I not only empower myself, but I help to empower others to live healthy, happy and satisfying lives.

Bailey, faithful companion & teacher ​
When I'd be in less than an ideal mood, he didn't care. He'd sit at my feet and happily let me pet him; his simple presence helping me to calm down. Like the best human listeners, Bailey didn't have to say anything - he just had to be present. Unlike people, dogs seem to have an ability to effortlessly be in the moment, fully present. In relating to others, people often try to come up with solutions rather than really listening and hearing what's being expressed, verbally and nonverbally. As a coach and trainer, I am full of ideas which I love to share. However, I have learned that sometimes what is really needed is to simply sit back and listen to and receive another's story.

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The 10 lessons

1. Always be kind to others. Bailey wasn't an aggressive dog and was open to both new people and other animals. The lesson? Only bark when dinner is late or when in danger!
2. Make friends wherever you go (you never know when you might get a bonus treat from a stranger!)
3. Listen and be present when others have a story they need to tell. Often all someone needs is to know they are not alone.
4. Take life lightly. Go for walks, nap when you need to, spend time in the sunshine and find time to play!
5. Love others unconditionally. Fully accepting another person right where they are, as they are, is what unconditional love is all about. Dogs can teach people a lot in this regard.
6. Chase things that are interesting to you and accept treats (but not too many!)
7. Be patient. Often, when I'd wake up in the morning, Bailey would already be up. Many mornings he was probably anxious to go outside. Yet, he'd be patient and not bother me until I was ready to let him out.
8. Accept help. As Bailey was getting ready to leave this earth, he had a couple of accidents. That wasn't his usual nature, and it was obvious to us that he felt he'd done something wrong. But we cleaned him up and reassured him with pats and hugs that all was well. At some point we all need a helping hand.
9. Say thanks. Bailey thanked us every day for taking good and loving care of him by returning that love to us ten-fold.
10. When it's time to go, leave peacefully. Bailey passed away as he lived. Gently and with grace. Over the past year, there were a couple of other times we thought Bailey was ready to go, but he surprised us and hung in there. Every day Bailey was on earth was a gift to our family. His friendship was steadfast and his love and loyalty to us never wavered. And when it was time, he simply rested under that tree and closed his eyes.

This little bundle of love left this earth, but not my heart. Bailey will stay there forever.

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