FATAL HUG

October 23 - True or false?

​Denny I need to share something with you that disturbed me.

Sunday night when we hugged goodbye, I felt very uncomfortable with how you hugged me.

​You've never hugged me like this - you held me so tightly against your body, and in such a strong, forceful  restraining grip. I  wanted to get away from that, but when I tried to pull away I couldn't because you had me pinned so hard and tight against you.
It triggered me, from past sexual abuse where I was restrained. I tried hard to stuff the feelings down and not let it show, being in a group celebration setting.
I've never in 64 years been hugged like this, where I felt pinned & restrained.
I need you to know to NEVER do this to me again.
To take care of myself and feel safe, if we hug in the future, I will only do a small "side hug" for just a quick moment. That means not a face to face embrace, but angled, where only our sides touch.
It's important for me to tell you this, so you know how it affected me, and why our physical contact will  need to be different in the future.
I know you  care about how you affect others. I  appreciate your understanding, and respect of my physical  boundary.