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THE OVERVIEW:
Working title: Stop Hating Me for Loving You!
Subtitle: How the past interfered with the present and destroyed the gift – a friendship
Overview: (Summary)
Abuse has become an overwhelming pattern in our world. Hurt people – well – Hurt people. The AFTERSHOCK of ABUSE is terrifying and often badly misunderstood.
This book is a story about a journey through the experience of the Aftershock of Abuse and the lessons learned. There are 6 major sections:
My purpose is to raise the awareness of how we hurt ourselves and others. The stories we make up might not be the ones we want to take up.
Courage is needed to have conversations of the heart. Trust isn’t easy to build and is easy to destroy. The past interferes with the present. Raising the awareness of that through honest and open communications with those we want to trust will increase the trust.
Sharing leads to Caring – and less burden bearing.
Subtitle: How the past interfered with the present and destroyed the gift – a friendship
Overview: (Summary)
Abuse has become an overwhelming pattern in our world. Hurt people – well – Hurt people. The AFTERSHOCK of ABUSE is terrifying and often badly misunderstood.
This book is a story about a journey through the experience of the Aftershock of Abuse and the lessons learned. There are 6 major sections:
- Building: several weeks exploring the possibilities of a real and meaningful friendship. Discovering many things in common and similar interests.
- Breakdown: Missed invitations were too much of a reminder of years of being ignored.
- Blowup: Previous trauma caused a PTSD blackout and unexpected behavior. And more than a few sleepless nights for me.
- Back off: What have I done? I need to step away and be kind, gentle, and keep praying for reconnection.
- Blip: Thanksgiving – A dance, a short conversation, and possibilities
- Back Off - Again: The first and reluctant NO.
My purpose is to raise the awareness of how we hurt ourselves and others. The stories we make up might not be the ones we want to take up.
Courage is needed to have conversations of the heart. Trust isn’t easy to build and is easy to destroy. The past interferes with the present. Raising the awareness of that through honest and open communications with those we want to trust will increase the trust.
Sharing leads to Caring – and less burden bearing.
Reawakening and rebuilding after the shock
What this book is about: The aftershock of abuse ... and lessons learned
Sometimes unintentionally - other times - well ...
Aftershock happens when the primary abuse is not dealt with and healed. It’s hidden and often buried. We often feel less than, like our opinions don’t matter and we feel unwanted / undesirable.
Those feelings come out in the next relationship. The aftershock builds barriers instead of bridges and boundaries.
Communication is clouded by the experience of the screaming matches and much more. The past interferes with the present.
The new partner isn’t aware of the trauma being played out. Often, the partner wants to make things right. After all, that’s what a real partnership is about. The new partner becomes less than (or one down) in an effort to keep the peace. The abuse cycle continues and drives the two people further apart. The new relationship is clouded because COURAGEOUS communications don’t happen.
On the surface, everything appears to be ok. Underneath the surface, the trauma of the past continues the torture that one works hard to forget. Trust breaks down and so does the relationship.
When people are distressed, they feel afraid, sad, and perhaps even angry. Anger scares people, even those who are feeling the anger. They don’t’ know where the anger comes from. They just have to express that anger – often in a rage. The anger is directed AT SOMEONE instead of AT THE ISSUE. We don’t receive the anger well or try to understand. We “fight” or “take flight”. Neither approach will heal the underlying problems. You’ll discover more about this in the story.
We hope you’ll find this story entertaining as well as informative.
Please sit back, grab a cup of tea or another beverage of choice, and share our heart’s journey in the pursuit of meaningful friendships.
With infinite gratitude and respect,
Denny Stockdale
- Courage is needed to have conversations of the heart.
- Trust isn’t easy to build and is easy to destroy.
- The past interferes with the present.
- Raising the awareness of that through honest and open communications with those we want to trust will increase the trust.
What this book is about: The aftershock of abuse ... and lessons learned
- Letting go of relationships that weren’t working. In most cases the partner had experienced trauma or abuse in the past. The prior experience interfered with the relationships each of us had.
- Searching for a new relationship. Most of us want to be loved and to find someone to love. Our small men's group started understanding the tragedy of abuse and discovering the gifts of compassion and empathy.
- Many big dreamers struggle to start a business/movement. This story is part of our mission to create a kinder world through the power of Encouragement.
- Raise awareness of the aftershock of abuse
- How the Aftershock of Abuse is BROUGHT FORWARD into future relationships
- Help the reader find a new sense of their own identity, value and worth.
- Provide tools to heal from the aftershock of abuse.
- And more
Sometimes unintentionally - other times - well ...
Aftershock happens when the primary abuse is not dealt with and healed. It’s hidden and often buried. We often feel less than, like our opinions don’t matter and we feel unwanted / undesirable.
Those feelings come out in the next relationship. The aftershock builds barriers instead of bridges and boundaries.
Communication is clouded by the experience of the screaming matches and much more. The past interferes with the present.
The new partner isn’t aware of the trauma being played out. Often, the partner wants to make things right. After all, that’s what a real partnership is about. The new partner becomes less than (or one down) in an effort to keep the peace. The abuse cycle continues and drives the two people further apart. The new relationship is clouded because COURAGEOUS communications don’t happen.
On the surface, everything appears to be ok. Underneath the surface, the trauma of the past continues the torture that one works hard to forget. Trust breaks down and so does the relationship.
When people are distressed, they feel afraid, sad, and perhaps even angry. Anger scares people, even those who are feeling the anger. They don’t’ know where the anger comes from. They just have to express that anger – often in a rage. The anger is directed AT SOMEONE instead of AT THE ISSUE. We don’t receive the anger well or try to understand. We “fight” or “take flight”. Neither approach will heal the underlying problems. You’ll discover more about this in the story.
We hope you’ll find this story entertaining as well as informative.
Please sit back, grab a cup of tea or another beverage of choice, and share our heart’s journey in the pursuit of meaningful friendships.
With infinite gratitude and respect,
Denny Stockdale